Emotions and control.

Emotions 

It sometimes feels almost impossible as a human being to adjust to the speed of change especially when you're evolving yourself. You don't always have time to absorb integrate and process what's going on with us in our busy lives.

It's an ongoing challenge for one's growth and intellectual and emotional well-being in this Life we live.

I've been reading a lot about the emotional well-being of cognition.

" the mental action or process of acquiring knowledge and understanding through thought, experience, and the senses "

Neuroscience tells us now  that learning, cognition and intellectualization has a direct link to emotionality and is intertwined. Our emotional states are connected to our hearts are other organs and also our, gut biome " bacterial intelligence " and all together  are possibly managed,. " possibly "  

    by our brains or should I say possibly organized by our brains. 

Putting together information from the outside world as stimuli and also from our inside world in our bodies themselves.

So our capacity to pay attention and to learn have a lot to do with what's happening internally on the visceral and emotional level.

What we call our gut feelings.

And in this society where people are becoming less and less connected to their gut feelings &

Because of that disconnection between ourselves and the external world we can have less focus and engagement with it.

This affects our ability to be present and in essence change and learn.

How many of us have had a gut feeling forced ourselves to ignore it and then regretted it later many of us.

This is a byproduct of a society that cuts us  off from out internal instincts or feelings.

We're mostly medicated in one way shape or form through prescription drugs, self-medicated legal addictions and our lack of living with nature.

Being told that we need to control our emotions and not feel anything in order to be successful and stable.

In essence a lie to control us, be more productive and just blindly Tow the line.

I've always known and felt that it's okay to feel stuff I tell people that everyday feel what you need to feel . Use it to manage and create a loving productive creative life of your choosing. I am doing this and more and  learning how  to balance all of it.

Feelings and emotion have a purpose they are real and  should not be ignored.

I will say it's hard to get used to it's kind of like never wearing sunglasses on the brightest day you've ever walked outside.

It can overwhelm ones senses..

Like sensory overload for a dog out on a walk sniffing everything it can find.

Depriving your feelings and emotions will definitely affect your ability to reason, make good decisions ,  effect your social behaviour and of course our creativity.

Our medical community historically is amazingly good at creating new diagnosis that label people. Handing out medications to people that don't need it to control behavior especially in kids.

Controlling behavioral conditions has dominated psychology and psychiatry for years now. 

When actually behaviour that is  not understood is because children do not possess the words to Express themselves and carries itself forward till we are adults.

And no matter how we've been raised as adults we don't understand ourselves very well sometimes.  We don't intellectually possess the correct language to communicate how we feel and think and and what that means to us.

More than likely there is just something happening in our lives that undermines our ability to socially interact well, pay attention or be present, to have an emotional regulation that's in our control. So we need to regulate  our stresses in life in a healthy way.

Stress in our external world & the environment that we live in today is or can be a direct cause of most of our emotional instability, fear , anxiety and so on.

So the ability to control stress and our environment gives us the ability to respond and not react to life.

Giving us the ability to adapt and create tools inside of Us to survive lifes stresses, create good health, encompassing the ability to learn and change and having good adaptation and social relationships.

We now know the direct link between our emotional states and stress and the ability to control this will make us live longer.

It it will improve the quality of life and the longevity of it so I believe it's a win-win.

I'm still learning about all of this how it affects me things that I can learn to become the most balanced human being I possibly can and live a good life.

It's an amazing journey with eyes wide open instead of wide shut.

So surround yourself with people that let you be you....

It's the greatest gift anyone can give you and most of all you give yourself.

Enjoy your journey folks peace and love

From me to you.

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Everlasting fulfilment within yourself.

Good day folks.

I've realized recently that everlasting fulfilment or soulful love for oneself truly does come from within.

It has forced me to re-examine everything I thought to be my needs.

And ask truly different questions of myself on a spectrum that I've never explored before..

In my  past I've always tried to find this from people and it could not be maintained and was too much to ask of anyone.

It has affected every aspect of me as of late and caused me to look in different directions for my forevers. 

I've recently been exposed to people that got lost like myself ones I can see my past self in. But by my observations still are using different crutchs as I once did and I still struggle with , but making no changes to find there balance and thereby being what I used to be a vampire of energy in love from someone or something they barely know & reaching out in unhealthy ways that are not maintainable and still leave you alone and lost.. as I've learned the hard way no matter what you always have to take yourself with you wherever you go.

I have great empathy for them and understand how difficult it is when you're looking externally for what should come from inside through action, maintenance and education...of one's Selfish needs that are screaming to be met inside all of us. So I am trying different things exploring scary ideals that are outside of my comfort zone and living in a different way, creating habits .... And following through on them. 

Shall we say I am putting my money where my mouth is.

We all do the best we can but I am grateful that I'm able to search now in a open and honest way ,  I truly feel the universes feedback now. 

Trusting my intuitions trusting my emotions and always telling that truth instead of a version I think someone else needs. 

Don't get me wrong it's fucking hard.

Expressing myself being true to myself and finding ways that include no one else to be happy and balanced so I keep a balance with the people I love and I don't tax them Beyond their own Journey and needs.

How I found happiness in my past was by giving back to everyone else being a fireman ,Raising a family & thinking that was happiness and it was at the time.

But through loss of immediate family and life changes there was no forever in it.

Not for me anyway.

My second or third rebirth that I'm in now LOL.

Everything has changed again , me included the questions I asked and the direction I go everything absolutely everything.

Love for me is number one and that includes just one person in an intimate way.

But in order to maintain that perfection that I need and love and feeds me I need to find ways to balance my soul, my peace and my  love in a different way so I can never fall into that lost world I once lived in. It is where I see so many people reside in a permanent way. You're never alone when you're lost there's more of us, out there than you will ever believe but you're still lost.

Strength comes to you as you call yourself on your own bullshit and in the search and the brutal honesty to oneself you become resistant to anyone and everything that needs to tell you your journey is misguided or flawed, in fact when you're truly there no matter what they say you don't really feel it. You can see it hear it and it does not affect you're inside intuitions and feelings I'm still working on this part.

I am so grateful for that inside me now.

It's the start of a great journey the one I've been seeking the one that brings me peace so I can achieve greatness and create Beauty and balance forever and ever amen.

I'm grateful for the contrast in the past now and in the future that helps me steer my ship to wherever it goes in my Life...

Have a beautiful week folks find colour in the grey it's there you just have to refocus everyday and find it and stay in that place.

Peace and Love from The Darkside that is so so bright.

Thanks for the read.

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Words

I have always believed that words carry great power.  They bind our minds together creating the human super computer.  They transcend time and space bringing words from our past to our future and from outer space to our great planet earth.
This is now giving us the ability to share the human experence, ideas, philosophys and knowledge this could be our saving grace. They bind us together like we bind pages in a book together creating a story of knowledge and or ideas or random thoughts that make us think and use our imaginations.

This gift is giving us the  power to realize that we are all the same. THIS is the new bible they call it the Internet!

I beleive it is the Noah's Ark that sails the oceans of life and our planet and also outer space linking all creation. 

The collective consciousness of energy from all  people of Earth....

Words all so have the power to make us understand we have the same hopes, dreams, fears and questions.
Words now also transcend race, color,  gender, and those who speak a different languages.  Spanish, french, german, English it does not matter for on the Internet we have the universal translators of language.  Every one can quickly see the thoughts of our alien counter parts that share this planet. Having an Amazing journey called
Life.

The amazing part is that most of us have the same questions.
And
As they say the answers lies in the questions. ?

I recently saw a video of Hillary Clinton saying America needs to wage yet another war and this time on Communication.  It made me sick. I Love the people of the United States of America as I do all people's of earth but " I say NO. "
The only reasons to stop the open exchange of information, news, current events,  ideas, thoughts and technology is to, control it.
To control what you  THINK, BUY, SELL, who you Hate who you Love and who you worship. 

This my freinds is fundamentally wrong.

Be free.
& Be you or No one At all.
Thanks for your time and the read.

Love The sinner but hate the sin....

The amazing colours seen through the dragonflies Wings remind me of Life in nature.

Anyone who has seen this amazing creature in the sunlight over the water, well it is spectacular to see. 

Just like us human beings we are amazing and spectacular in our imperfections and perfection. I've recently started a new health Journey one of being sober. This is my first try at this in life believe it or not.

I never tried before and just decided it was time. Well I had someone who supported me in the ways I needed to so it was even more possible for me. Just cold turkey the same way I quit prescription pills over 10 years ago....No foofaraw or groups a little help but mainly counselling for some old wounds....

I'm very grateful for this change I've gone through. 

When it comes down to it though it's a very lonely and a  personal choice. I mostly drank because I was bored and it filled time. Like a lot of people I know actually.

I decided to try and fill that time as I figure it out with things that I love to do.

The art of life...

And the beauty of having someone to share it with. Great blessings I say.

So some of these things that filled in the time are things like sleep and many other great things lol.

I've always been trying to look after my health you might say why would you look after something so sorry and wretched LOL as some of us humans think.

Well I'm just going to get cancer and die anyway so there's really no point I can eat anything and do anything cuz it won't matter anyhow in the end.

Well that's bullshit... The quality of life improves immediately when we do any positive change for ourselves. You'll know because a calm will come over you as you find your own personal alignment, with the universe.

Just as nature finds ways to thrive and survive under the right conditions so will your body and mind and spirit.

I like myself a lot more this way. I feel more in control and I feel able to sort out the things that have hindered me in the past. I think there's a few reasons we don't like ourselves enough to look after ourselves. 

Life can be brutal and we are human, so sometimes we don't like ourselves.

One reason is we are fragile and damageable and imperfect in multiple dimensions all the time. These things can get worse as we get older. So it's not always that easy even for a self conscious and fully aware person such as myself.

One reason is

Because we all carry our history with us and sometimes in our pasts we were weak and prone to temptation to things that were un healthy for us mind and body alike.

And some of us can be very malevolent.

So why should you take care of something as sorry and wretched as You are. Well?

This is a existential problem, yes the same problem that we all carry together, individually and as a group.  So you're not alone in your self-destructive behavior it's a human condition that we were programmed into.

So as in the title :  

Love The sinner but hate the sin. 

Love yourself enough to not be a product of your past we get reborn everyday, People. 

   I personally seem to get extra births LOL.... So I'm trying to make healthier choices as a child LOL... Metaphorically speaking...

By the way if you don't speak in metaphors you will have no clue what I'm talking about , hell half the time I don't even know.

And if you're looking for proper grammar and spelling you won't find it here LOL.

Anyway back to my point sucks having I wandering mind...lol

So one of the things  I've done with my health ,  mind and body is I've been treating myself like someone external that I genuinely care for and want the best for and that person always takes the positive road the proactive road and follows through. So it's incumbent on me to act and treat myself this same way. I believe I have a moral obligation to treat myself with the same high regard. 

So yes I made lots of mistakes in the past but I love the sinner more than the old sins..

I believe I have something valuable to share with the right people in the right State of mind. And I can bring that bright light within myself to everyone I care about. I've seen that glow in someone else and it's very attractive to me.

Despite myself in my past I feel I have that responsibility to bring my best self to the table of my life...  

A healthy flame with a bright light can withstand a Storm or two in this windy world we live.. &

There is much love here for you.

Just open your eyes.

Take care of yourselves people of Earth.

You're worth it.

Peace and Love from The Darkside that's always so bright.

Thanks for the read.

Lance..